“Baby Boy No Name” has been my patient for the last month and I sent him home, probably to die. I have mentioned that things are tough. This is a perfect example. From beginning to end, the frustration never ended.
No Name’s mom was admitted to the hospital because her bag of water broke and the baby’s leg was hanging out. She had no idea how far along she was, but guessed around 7-8 months. Without doing an ultrasound, it was decided to just induce her and “get it over with”. I was checking on patients and happened to come across her. I immediately stopped the induction, started her on antibiotics, and gave steroids. The one person with the only key to the ultrasound room was nowhere to be found. My hope was to keep the patient pregnant at least long enough for the baby to benefit from the steroids (lung development) and to keep her from getting an infection. She stayed pregnant for another 5 days and then went into labor. On day 5, I finally had access to the ultrasound. No Name was about 30 weeks–or 2 months early. Here babies do not live before 28 weeks, so this baby had a chance.
Since No Name was trying to come out foot first I felt that the best option was to do a c-section. So we went to surgery. Mom and No Name did great. After birth, I placed a tube in No Name’s nose to feed him. I instructed mom to express milk. She complained of hurting too badly from surgery and was not motivated to do so. So we started No Name on formula. The family literally spent their entire life savings ($9) on one small can of formula.
About two days after surgery, I went into the room to find mom burning with a fever and baby freezing cold. Vital signs are never taken on babies. When I had them take No Name’s temp he was hypothermic. Both mother and No Name were started on antibiotics… or so I thought. The mother was febrile for two days before I found out that the family was not buying antibiotics for the mother because of the cost (90 cents a day). So, I started paying for the antibiotics. No Name has developed some sort of skin rash, but was now able to stay warm.
The nurses help each other out and as a group take care of all the patients. No one is assigned to patients. No Name was supposed to be getting fed every 2-3 hours. It isn’t expected to write things in the chart, so I would get nervous never knowing if he was fed or not. When I would ask about expressing milk they would just ask the mom is she was doing it. She would say yes. I would then ask, “How many times a day?” Mom would say once or twice….
Now let me tell you about the breast pumps here. They take a 20 cc syringe and cut off the end of it. It is a one size fits most nipples pump. They then put the rough, cut edges of the syringe on the nipple and pull on the plunger. Talk about uncomfortable!!! Melodie Stocks, an Obstetrician from the states had sent a breast pump, so I brought it to the mother. Most of the midwives were not convinced it was “strong” enough. I can understand why they would think that, compared to their “breast pump”.
The next day, mom’s incision opened up and was pouring out pus. The hospital was out of gauze (there is a shortage in the entire country), so I went on a hunt to see if any of the nurses had some stashed away. I was able to find a few in the operating room. We don’t have the proper soaps to clean out the incisions, so we used bleach water and then put the few gauze I could find in the wound. With her being sick, her motivation to express milk was greatly decreased. I wanted mom to express milk and then supplement with formula. No Name just got formula.
It was a constant battle every day. Many days, I would go between surgeries or at the end of my day to help the mom pump for an hour to make sure it was at least happening once a day.
When No Name was about two weeks old we had a big scare. I was just popping my head into rooms to ask how everyone was. Mom and dad were asleep and No Name was blue and not breathing. I stimulated him and did mouth to mouth. It was just an episode of apnea, but another medication was added to his list.
With time, both mom and No Name were improving. No Name had gone from 1.5 kilograms at birth to 1.7 kilos about two and a half weeks after birth. Mom reported No Name was sucking really well and she demonstrated it to me. I was reluctant to do so, but I pulled the nasogastric tube and told her to breast feed. The next day No Name was a little dehydrated. Mom didn’t have much milk in and they weren’t supplementing with formula, so I told them to combine the two. The next day, No Name was even more dehydrated.
Both mom and dad were crying and begging to go home. Dad was literally on the ground begging me to let them go home. They are farmers and have 4 kids at home. No one has been caring for them. They were afraid that if they do not go home the whole family will starve to death. And if they can’t farm the fields it will affect them not just for a short time, but for the entire year. They had no money, so they couldn’t pay their bill and leave. Patients are just kept in the hospital until they pay up. There was no way to keep No Name in the hospital without a parent. I volunteered to take No Name home for a week or two, but was told I couldn’t because of the possible consequences if something went wrong. I paid their hospital bill, gave them another can of formula and money to get home and buy some food. In the reality of this world they had to go home. They chose survival for the ones that had the best chance. I don’t think No Name will ever get a name, but I hope that the No Name’s brothers and sisters will be able to survive.
…. very difficult Stephanie….
…. Chaplains say…. “there is nothing more difficult that watching a child die… perhaps only if it is your child….”
j
So convicting Stephanie. Praying… and helping where we can. Praying for you and all the No Names that you encounter. You are making an eternal difference. Love, “Mom” Shar
Hi Steph,
If you take the plunger out of the syringe and put it in the cut end you will have a nice smooth edge to put against the breast. This usually works quite nicely.
Thanks Patty! Oh, the simple things!
Let us touch the dying, the poor, the lonely and the unwanted according to the graces we have received and let us not be ashamed or slow to do the humble work.
Mother Teresa
I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.
Helen Keller
Sometime it helps to be inspired by those who worked before us…
Sarah Zuidema
Praying for you and your patients.
You are doing such amazing work, Stephanie! You are the only face of God’s eternal that some of these people will ever know. I wish that I was there to do the ultrasound for you. Or, get you your own portable to have…….
do you want my pump? where do i send it?
I am going to talk to the other OBs about pumps today. Hand helds would be great at both hospitals. The plug ins would be good at the Christian Hospital because they have a generator. They would work at the govt hospital sometimes. I will let you know soon. Miss you girl!
Oh my. This is terribly difficult. My heart aches for little No Name and for his parents. I so wish they would give him a name.
Hello. I found your story via a Facebook friend. I wish I could do something to help. Is there some address to which I could send some gently used breast pumps?
Stephanie Hail
Soddo Christian Hospital
Box 305
Wollaita Soddo, Ethiopia
Thank you!
I have a couple of hand held pumps I can send… let me know!
(Sophie’s sister) Rebekah
That would be great!!!!
I think I sent you an response on Facebook, but now I am scared I didn’t. The pumps would be great! Thanks!!!!
I PRAY FOR YOU EVERY DAY. I AM SO GLAD YOU WERE ABLE TO TOUCH THE LIFE OF NO NAME AND THE FAMILY. THOSE BABIES ARE SO BLESSED. YOU ARE AMAZING.
Hello Stephanie,
My name is Kari hibbard and I am a surgical tech at the new birth center at hackley hospital in Muskegon. I had always heard people saying great things about you and the work you are doing! My friend recently gave me your website and I started to read it and I couldn’t stop! What an amazing and ever so strong woman you are! My heart broke reading your stories especially remembering when I did a short term mission trip to the Democratic Republic of Congo and seeing things I never thought happened until I saw them with my own eyes! You are what Jesus calls us to be! You are his hands and feet! Africa stole a piece of my heart and I would someday love to return! I always said I would love to do something with orphanages or do a medical mission! My heart and mind are already at work thinking of what I can do to help! I will continue to pray for you and the people of Ethiopia and especially the 6 million children who need a loving family!
My husband and I just adopted two boys from Ethiopia who were put up for adoption because their birth dad couldn’t afford food for them. This story absolutely breaks my heart. I will pray for No Name’s family.
I am a childhood friend of the Hails, and have read your postings, via your dad, Gary. You are an inspiration to all. I cannot imagine having to witness the things you witness. It makes me weep to know of such sorrow and life decisions the people you write about have to make. You are making such a difference, with the work you are doing. God bless.
Debbie Dyess
I love your blog. I found it via a facebook friend and my heart breaks for the people there. I’m not in the medical field but I wonder if someone in the US could buy a good condition, used incubator or two and send them to you along with some space heaters. I wish I could help but I can’t afford to.
Thank you for your donation! And someone just bought four heaters for the hospital. So exciting!!!
Hi Stephanie,
I read this today and I prayed this for you.
from the New Living Translation
“In times of trouble, may the Lord answer your cry.
May the name of the God of Jacob keep you safe from all harm.
May he send you help from his sanctuary
and strengthen you from Jerusalem. …
May he grant your heart’s desires
and make all your plans succeed.
May we shout for joy when we hear of your victory
and raise a victory banner in the name of our God.
May the LORD answer all your prayers.”
Psalm 20:1–2, 4–5
My son is from the Soddo area. He was given up by his father because he had no money to care for him. This post really hits home for me. Thank you for the work you are doing.